Tuesday, 07 October 2008

• Controlling "boyfriend"?

  What exactly do you do when you feel your friend is just too controlling and insists on acting as though he's your boyfriend?
  
  You've done everything you could think of! You tried talking to him about it. You've tried just ignoring him. You've even tried talking to therapist about the emotional damage that you know he's caused (Yuo swear that pimple on your forehead wasn't there the day before and you are SURE that its now there because of the emotional stress that he is putting you through).
  
  But nothing seems to have worked! What do you?
  
  He buys you things and then holds it against you that he bought them. He makes fun of your cooking and then when he sounds like he's being nice by offering to cook for you, he says a month later that he only did because you obviously can't take care of yourself (even though you've been living on your own for over a year and clearly seem to be able to handle yourself quite well). He tells you not to do certain things and then when you do it, he gets mad.
  
  At this point, he doesn't even sound like a friend (he was never your boyfriend and he acts this way because he always wanted to be able to take care of you in that way). You know he just wants to take care of you the same that a boyfriend would (hey, I just said that!) but he's subliminally upset by the fact that he (in fact) is NOT your boyfriend, so then he makes fun of you for him HAVING to take care of you (you know, I never remember asking...hmm...funny...must be the schizophrenic alzheimer's I have acting up again)
  
  The question is.....(AHHH-)...What do I (-HHHHH) do?
  

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• Love Your BF? Love your Ex? Uh, Oh..

  The other day, I had to write a paper for my Writing Composition class. A reflective essay on a certain situation in your life that meant a lot to you and then, of course, why?
  
  Well, of course, having gotten out of a serious two and a half year relationship, I guess the day we patched things up would be a great thing for me to write about. So I wrote and I wrote and I wrote, not really thinking about how my current boyfriend would feel about it (Its not like he didn't know about how I felt about my ex, I thought that he just wouldn't think twice about it).
  
  so.. uhm
  WRONG!
  
  i wrote the essay about how things can change so drastically and yet sometimes feel or look the same. I did mention in the essay ( as the story did actually happen) that I was with my current boyfriend and that we were happy. He read the essay and then got quite.....for almost 4 hours.
  
  I kept asking him what was wrong, if it was the essay that upset him and, like every other man in the world, he said, "I'm fine."
  
  Finally, I asked him one more time and I begged him to please tell me what was wrong and he said, "I will be fine," Ah, the man's tell all sign.
  
  He finally told me that after reading the essay, it made him feel that if given the chance I would leave him for my ex in a heartbeat. I was touched (and i found it a little cute) that he was upset but also hurt that he thought that I would do that.
  
  I tried to tel him that yes, I do still love my ex, but never in the way that I am in love with him now. I love my ex because it was hard for me to no longer love someone. He'll always be in my heart but we both know that we would never make it as a couple.
  
  Well needless to say, my boyfriend feels better now and the world has now returned to the way it always has: the plummeting stock market, the melting ice caps, and a lump of something that I think has evolved to intelligence staring up at me from my glass of milk. Normal
  
  ^_^
  
  Oh, and if u would like to read the essay click here <--clicky
  
  

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